[SPARK-49035][PYTHON] Eliminate TypeVar `ColumnOrName_`

### What changes were proposed in this pull request?
Eliminate TypeVar `ColumnOrName_`

### Why are the changes needed?
unify the usage of `ColumnOrName`

### Does this PR introduce _any_ user-facing change?
No, internal change

### How was this patch tested?
CI

### Was this patch authored or co-authored using generative AI tooling?
No

Closes #47512 from zhengruifeng/hint_CoN_.

Authored-by: Ruifeng Zheng <ruifengz@apache.org>
Signed-off-by: Hyukjin Kwon <gurwls223@apache.org>