bpo-41100: Support macOS 11 and Apple Silicon (GH-22855)

Co-authored-by:  Lawrence D’Anna <lawrence_danna@apple.com>

* Add support for macOS 11 and Apple Silicon (aka arm64)
   
  As a side effect of this work use the system copy of libffi on macOS, and remove the vendored copy

* Support building on recent versions of macOS while deploying to older versions

  This allows building installers on macOS 11 while still supporting macOS 10.9.