bpo-38234: Fix test_embed.test_init_setpath_config() on FreeBSD (GH-16406)

Explicitly preinitializes with a Python preconfiguration to avoid
Py_SetPath() implicit preinitialization with a compat
preconfiguration.

Fix also test_init_setpath() and test_init_setpythonhome() on macOS:
use self.test_exe as the executable (and base_executable), rather
than shutil.which('python3').