gh-111926: Make weakrefs thread-safe in free-threaded builds (#117168)

Most mutable data is protected by a striped lock that is keyed on the
referenced object's address. The weakref's hash is protected using the
weakref's per-object lock.
 
Note that this only affects free-threaded builds. Apart from some minor
refactoring, the added code is all either gated by `ifdef`s or is a no-op
(e.g. `Py_BEGIN_CRITICAL_SECTION`).