gh-116522: Stop the world before fork() and during shutdown (#116607)

This changes the free-threaded build to perform a stop-the-world pause
before deleting other thread states when forking and during shutdown.
This fixes some crashes when using multiprocessing and during shutdown
when running with `PYTHON_GIL=0`.

This also changes `PyOS_BeforeFork` to acquire the runtime lock
(i.e., `HEAD_LOCK(&_PyRuntime)`) before forking to ensure that data
protected by the runtime lock (and not just the GIL or stop-the-world)
is in a consistent state before forking.